Getting comments on your post, blog or vlog is really exciting, especially when they come in trickles and in-between times. However, if they are below expectation, of low quality or out-rightly bad comments, it can be really disappointing with the feeling that the reader should have made more effort to read and understand before commenting. That notwithstanding, many readers don’t know how to comment even though they understand the post, blog or vlog.
Bad comments are defined as unfavourable, negatively spoken or written remark based on a particular issue or event, whether real or perceived. They can be a guide to understanding what needs to be done or areas that need improvement in which case they are considered constructive criticisms. There are also bad comments that usually come from people who don’t have strong understanding of the narrative, context and or postulation of the post, blog or vlog.
Why are there bad comments? They are made either because of genuine analysis of a post or for some personal reasons resulting from bad feeling whereby the commenter feels like criticizing others in order to better his or her mood. A comment becomes bad because emphases are placed on some words that are not polite so as to communicate a bad message, yell at or offend someone. Bad comments are made in response to one’s mood which may prompt one to build one’s ego while stepping on other’s toes. Sometimes some people just want to scorn and mock other people’s personality and performance due to envy and jealousy.
How Bad Comments Can Mar An Individual
There are several ways bad comments can have negative impacts on an individual. They can ruin an individual by making him or her begin to question his or her existence, personality, maturity, productivity, value, strength, etc. They leave the individual feeling unmotivated, worthless and unaccomplished with the gradual set-in of depression. Bad comments can create anxiety, fear and shock, and make one question one’s own choice.
Bad comments can damage an individual’s self esteem and confidence by making the person feel less of themselves, feel that they cannot succeed at their goals, doubt their capacity and productivity in life and shift their attention to things that can deteriorate their mental health. Such things include alcohol, drug use and other bad habits. The deteriorated mental health will make it harder for the individual to pay attention to things that require longer attention.
Bad comments can cause dysfunctional thought or cognitive distortion which makes an individual to have inaccurate thought pattern about themselves especially about their bodily image and personality. Bad comments about an individual’s physiognomy can cause loss of appetite and other related problems.
How Bad Comments Can Make An Individual
Inasmuch as bad comments can deteriorate one’s mental health, there are ones that should not be totally ignored. It’s useful to pay attention to such bad comments, which are considered to be constructive and fair criticism, and decide if there are changes to make in one’s behaviour, personality, product or style. Take note of the comments and make effort to improve performance or expectation in future.
Bad comments can serve as a motivational tool and can inspire lots of ideas when analyzed properly and accepted. They can help to increase trust, transparency and productivity while at the same time increasing interpersonal skills. Initially, they can appear like a big blow to one’s pride but when properly interpreted can actually be turned into an opportunity to excel and shine.
Always remember that bad comments are more about the commenters and not you which can be made out of envy, their opinions are long formed and they tend to make things about themselves more than it is about the topic. You can deal with bad comments by applying the golden rule of “don’t take it personal”. The internet is a particularly fertile source of snarky “keyboard warriors”. One needs to apply wisdom in operating on it.
In conclusion, just because people make bad comments won’t make you to stop doing stuff on the internet. You just need to be aware that bad comments exist and prepare your mind for them. It is a good idea to be vigilant and prepared for bad comments so as not to be taken unawares. Learn some mindfulness techniques. They might not be a “cure-it-all” but they will help to reduce stress and anxiety resulting from bad comments. They will also help to build a self-sustaining thought process that enables one to absorb any shocks that may result from bad comments. With all this knowledge, the world of cyber will make you more productive, positive minded and happy.
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